Five Things we should Know by Now…

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These are some of things I have been reliably informed, are essential if we want to make a success of our writing. In retrospect, there is possibly too much information out there, and all of it supposedly the right way to write, that it can be downright confusing. At least I have found it to be so.
And to think, all this time I assumed it was a simple as picking up a pen!

1. There is no such thing as the ‘perfect’ book.
This came as quite a surprise to me, because I’m sure I have read quite a few that are, at least in my opinion. But according to some of these experts, I shouldn’t be striving to produce the perfect book. (I shouldn’t?)
All this time I have been trying to write well, constantly comparing my feeble efforts with that of my idols, something I have been told in the past was a good idea.
But what I should be doing, apparently, is simply the best I can. (now who would have thought of that?)

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2. That no matter what you do, it takes time.
I have discovered that writing is all about improvement.
Every time you pick up a pen or switch on your computer you will have improved since the last time you did. That’s how the brain is supposed to work when we let it, you know, practice makes perfect?
The trick is not to argue with it, which is something I still do sometimes. It has been hard to trust in something, which let’s face it, has let me down big time in the past; but by using what I have learnt, I think I may have found the right work ethic with my writing. And the experts were right; it did take an awfully long time.

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3. How do you make readers care?
This one still stumps me, either they will care or they won’t, how can you make them? And if you do find a way to do it, how is it real? Then I read that you should try to treat writing like any other job. One that doesn’t make you feel good every day. One that frustrates the hell out of you, but one you have to commit to, for better or worse.
That makes it sound like a marriage, doesn’t it? But maybe it is a partnership of sorts. In a marriage, you usually get out what you put in; in other words, if you care, so will your partner, so I do get their point.
But trying to get anyone to care has never come easily to me. In my youth I was convinced that I was unlovable; indeed, I have several failed relationships behind me, nothing to be proud of, ever.
Now I am older, I find I can communicate better, so that might be the answer. Personally, I think becoming a silver surfer was the solution. Through the Internet, I have met so many interesting and lovely people all over the world, far more than you could meet in a lifetime without a PC.
The Internet also removes the awkward shyness that most people have, meeting people for the first time, for which I will be eternally grateful.

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4. How to make friends and influence people.
I try to make our posts interesting; although I am still not sure I’m doing the whole blog thing properly. Being self-taught can be a problem, I think. You can never be sure if you have absorbed all the information needed, or missed a valuable point that would make all the difference in the world. Let’s face it, some of the stuff we have to learn would try the patience of Job and I didn’t have much of that in the first place!

5. Whatever happens, don’t give up.
Sometimes it seems an impossible task, all this marketing and promoting. As if writing wasn’t hard enough. You don’t have to self-publish, I hear you say, but we have tried the conventional route.
To say we are stubborn is probably an understatement, but we are great believers in ‘how hard can it be?’ and despite finding out that self-publishing is, indeed very hard, we have no intention of giving up just yet. We are having too much fun and meeting so many lovely people!

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The last photograph on this page is by Jonathan Gunson from BestsellerLabs.com and I have it pride of place on the wall above my computer. Just so I can remember his advice on a daily basis; for of all the people I have listened to, he manages to make everything I am trying to do, that much more achievable.

 


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  1. Writing Links 3/5/18 – Where Genres Collide Avatar

    […] https://jenanita01.com/2018/02/28/five-things-we-should-know-by-now-2/ “These are some of things I have been reliably informed, are essential if we want to make a success of our writing. In retrospect, there is possibly too much information out there, and all of it supposedly the right way to write, that it can be downright confusing. At least I have found it to be so.” I’m self-taught too. I use craft books, podcasts, blogs, etc. to learn more. […]

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  2. Natalie Ducey Avatar

    Wonderful post. I’ve come to understand that writing, as is life, is a continuous journey of becoming. It’s quite remarkable really!
    Thanks so much for sharing. I think all readers of this post can relate to your sentiments. Cheers to the journey! :)

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  3. Rowena Avatar

    Reblogged this on beyondtheflow and commented:
    I know we get a lot of advice about being a writer and how to write, but these points seemed to be a different and great advice xx Rowena

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    1. jenanita01 Avatar

      So glad I’m not the only one who thinks so, but it took me a while to figure things out!

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  4. dgkaye Avatar

    Fantastic post Jaye. I think many of us writers are or have been in your shoes in thought. We all find our way, and yes, the more we write the better we get – it’s a process, like life. :) xx

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    1. jenanita01 Avatar

      Becoming a writer was a steep learning curve all right, but I wouldn’t change any of it!

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      1. dgkaye Avatar

        Copy that my friend. :)

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  5. John W. Howell Avatar

    Excellent post. We all have the same concerns and questions. The interesting part is none of us have all the answers. The words of Jonathan Gunson are so true. When you feel like quitting, just write some more. Make up a story about your life after quitting writing. You’ll be back.

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    1. jenanita01 Avatar

      I cannot understand your words, but thanks for commenting anyway!

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      1. OIKOS™-Redaktion Avatar

        Sorry, thank you too. Its always a pleasure. Michael

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        1. jenanita01 Avatar

          Good to meet you, Michael!

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          1. OIKOS™-Redaktion Avatar

            Its really my pleasure, Jenanita! Have a good weekend. Michael

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  6. Eliza Waters Avatar

    I read a quote about gardening years ago that really hit me and it applies to many things in life: “The process is the point.”

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    1. jenanita01 Avatar

      But enjoying the process is key, I think…

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  7. Marilyn Armstrong Avatar

    I have effectively avoided listening to advice. Nonetheless, I keep reading it — just in case there’s really perfect I shouldn’t miss it. So far, though, doing what I do seems to work well. I think we have good instincts and we should depend on them.

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    1. jenanita01 Avatar

      Give nagging doubt the boot, then?

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  8. D. Wallace Peach Avatar

    Wonderful advice. I think #2 was a huge surprise to me when I starting this writing journey. It can take decades! Now I’m fine with it and just enjoy the ride. :-)

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    1. jenanita01 Avatar

      You have to enjoy what you do, or there’s no point!

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  9. Darlene Avatar

    It has taken me a long time but I am finally getting it. Number 2 in particular. I like things done quickly. It just doesn’t happen when writing.

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    1. jenanita01 Avatar

      No, you do need a fair amount of patience…

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    1. jenanita01 Avatar

      Thank you so much for re-posting this, Sue!

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      1. Sue Vincent Avatar

        My pleasure, Jaye x

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  10. Liz Teaches Avatar

    These tips are imperative. I too have learned and experienced these simple yet efficient lessons in life.

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    1. jenanita01 Avatar

      I do have to keep reminding myself though, the old brain tends to forget the finer details…

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  11. evelynralph Avatar

    Lovely photographs, spring pink mist. I neve know if I am doing right. My ethic is ‘ i write what Zi want, if someone reads what I write, and like it, I am happy. I know my age is against me for writing many masterpieces, there is no time left, well, not enough.
    Evelyn

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    1. jenanita01 Avatar

      Thank you Evelyn, I keep telling myself to stop worrying and just enjoy, but it never quite happens. Anyway, I am happy doing what I do, at least some of the time!

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